I like being prepared. And I also like knowing stuff, so that I can be prepared. I am now 12 weeks and 6 days pregnant. That is still too early to discover the baby’s gender by normal sonar, although I’ve heard they can pick it up at about 12 weeks if you are having a fetal-assessment (which we’re not). I want to find out if we’re going to have a girl or a boy. This makes me feel prepared.
It also means I can start buying proper stuff, in the right color! I’m not really a green/yellow/beige/white kinda momma. Also, in my head, green is for boys and yellow is for girls, which kind of only leaves you with white and beige to choose from. And I don’t think white is a very sensible color, specially if there’s a big brother of 3 and a bit* in the surrounding area.
On top of that, knowing the gender allows us to name PlusOne properly. And that makes her more real, not just to me, but to Boobah as well. And that is very important in my eyes.
Long before I was even pregnant, I really found a liking for the name Aidan. It’s just something that stuck in my head and was the first name I thought of when both those lines showed up. I even went as far as feminizing the name to Aydenne, just in case we have a girl. I ran the idea past The Dad, who initially agreed with me on the name, both ways, but two days later changed his mind on Aydenne. Aidan was still fine, but he wasn’t so much liking the girl name. I told him it’s fine, he just needs to come up with a better name then, that we’d both agree on. Which he duly did. The first name he said, Cenay, was the one I then immediately fell in love with! And because PlusOne is a girl, I told Boobah the name and we’ve been speaking of Cenay ever since.
But don’t fear, I’ve also discussed with him the possibility that PlusOne might be a boy, and then she will be a he and then his name will be Aidan. And he totally gets it!
That was until this weekend though. I found out this weekend that a cousin of The Dad has named her little girl Hayden. Hayden is now six weeks old (maybe 7). Hayden is a lovely name, but that puts us in a slight dilemma. I can now, and no longer want to, name PlusOne Aidan if he were to be a boy**. The names are way to similar and the kids being born in the same year… nah, I just don’t want to think about it.
So after much deliberation on Wednesday, I searched high and low for new boy names. Eventually I came up with five that made my shortlist:
(From MOST favorite to least favorite-but-still-nice)
- and Caleb
I mentioned them to The Dad that night, who had something snotty to say about EACH and EVERY name I came up with! Besides that putting me into a mood and sending me flying off my handle, it meant that we couldn’t go with any of those. So we started throwing names around and I even got wonderful input from some Twitter mommas out there. Eventually we settled on either Matthew (The Dad’s choice) and Alexander (another long-time favorite of mine). I kept leaning towards Alexander, but the more I think of Matthew, the more the name grows on me. Also, keep in mind, the name has to go with William, which is the maternal family name***.
Then, last night, I was explaining the new name situation to Boobah. I told him to say both new names, and then I asked him which one is his favorite? The one he likes most of the two? His answer: Matthew.
I think that settles it then! If PlusOne were to be a boy, he will be called Matthew William S.
Much love x 2.25
*The age Boobah will be at the time of birth
**It’s going to be a girl, so it doesn’t particularly matter, right?
***Boobah has the paternal family name, and this is something I really want to do