I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. It’s becoming more apparent every day, as A2 grows every day. Even though they come from the exact same DNA, the boys could not be more different!
A1 is a rather sensitive child. He gets upset easily, and other children or animals in not-always-nice situations affects him greatly. Whether it’s real life or on TV. He is also our beloved drama queen and is prone to obsessing about things. Most notably in the last few months: when he stuck that sweet up his nose. He was going on about it for a week!
And then, unfortunately, the following week, he accidentally swallowed a tiny sweet whole. He was convinced he was going to die! For another whole week, it was a constant struggle to get him to eat something. Anything. But he was adamant he could still feel that sweet in his throat. And he worried about everything that he swallowed, lest that gets stuck in his throat too! He lost so much weight during that time.
A1 is also the outgoing type. While in some situations it might take him a few minutes just to mellow and check the scene out, he’s the one that will play with everyone and anyone. He’s lucky enough to count many children as his friends, everywhere.
He’s also the affectionate one. He thrives on hugs and kisses and hands them out spontaneously and freely. He loves to snuggle. Admittedly, (and wrongly so) I probably don’t always respond to his needs. It’s something I’m working on and trying to be on top of.
The one thing he does, that drives me absolutely dilly, is his constant whining. About every.little.thing!! I could climb walls when he starts with that!
A1 is our healthy child. He always has been. When he was little, he reached all of his milestones on time, if not earlier than the books said. He’s always been ahead of his age, even now.
He is super amazing when it comes to drawing. A1 has always drawn pictures with such detail! Even his teacher commented on his talent, both in class and in his latest report card.
A1 gets moaned at a lot – partly because he’s almost 6 and I feel he should know better by now, and partly because he just.does.not.listen!! I swear, some days I think those things on the sides of his head are purely for aesthetics.
On the other hand, A2 is our not so constantly healthy child, but we’re working on that. He took his own sweet time with reaching milestones, doing so only when he was good and ready.
He’s not big on the whole hugs and kisses thing. He gives them to me, but not everyday. And not regularly to other people either, not even his dad or his brother. Sometimes I have to pull all my tricks just for a hug.
He’s very, very much a mommy’s boy. He’s my constant companion, like a little shadow. 95% of the time, when he needs something done, “Mamma moet!”
A2 is a cautious child, initially. But once he gets over that, he’s a fearless brave child. I suppose he still needs to learn that actions have consequences. He’s also a big tease, with a sharp sense of humour.
And he’s bloody naughty!! And not like his brother, who doesn’t listen. He’s lekker aspris! Doing things deliberately when he knows it’s not allowed. Or to get A1 into trouble. In the beginning that worked, but I’m catching on to his tricks.
I suppose we took longer in disciplining him than we did with A1. Maybe it’s because he was the baby. And we saw him as the baby for a good long time.
A2 is not keen on new people or faces. It takes him ages to warm up to someone. He’ll happily play by himself somewhere, once he’s ready to explore. Like today, I took the boys to a lovely place for lunch and outdoor playtime. For the first 30 minutes, he sat with me at the table, just looking. And then I pointed out the sandpit and he shot to it like a bullet. Initially he played alone, then alongside an older girl, then alone again. Eventually he looked for A1 and convinced him to play in the sand for a bit. I didn’t see them for almost 2 hours, except for sips of cool drink.
My baby is quick to grab a book. He loves paging through them. Specially the Disney ones where he recognizes the characters from movies he’s seen. He also loves the books on the iPad. He listens to them constantly. We have a few Dr. Seuss books on the iPad, of which we have the hard copies as well. His little face lights up when he recognizes the book in either format, and runs to fetch the other matching book to show me.
A2 is very much a routine child. A1 never was. Still isn’t. I need to keep A2 in some sort of his routine or he becomes rather difficult. And when we start the morning, I need to go through the plans for the day, so he knows what to expect.
I’ve had almost 6 years to get to know A1 and only 2.5 years with A2, so I’m sure his list will grow. But beyond these differences, we love both boys equally. In their own different ways.
I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with them, getting to know them better!